Hot Takes Leave Bad Burns

Unless you’ve had your head in the sand or been on your honeymoon, you’ve likely heard about the boys from Covington Catholic School who visited Washington, D.C. last week where they became the stars of the latest viral video.

Initial videos seemed to portray a young white teen boy wearing a red MAGA hat defying and possibly mocking an older Native American man rhythmically beating a tribal drum. Surrounding the man and the boy were dozens of other boys from the school. Some chanting, others laughing, a few more taking videos and selfies, and the rest otherwise doing what high school boys usually do – mostly immature stuff.

The first video of the scene was about one minute long, give or take a few seconds and drew nearly universal condemnation from anyone with a keyboard or microphone. Hot takes from journalists, politicians, celebrities, bloggers, and activists flooded the Internet. The Catholic Conference of Kentucky fell head long into the quagmire.

We condemn the actions of the Covington Catholic High School students towards Nathan Phillips specifically, and Native Americans in general, Jan. 18, after the March for Life, in Washington, D.C. We extend our deepest apologies to Mr. Phillips. This behavior is opposed to the Church’s teachings on the dignity and respect of the human person.

But then, as so often happens, light revealed what was in the darkness as more videos of greater length and wider shots showed the boys were not the instigators but were, in fact, approached by the drum-beating protestor for reasons still undetermined.

The hot takes from journalists, politicians, celebrities, bloggers and activists were wrong, dead wrong. Many of them have walked back their original attacks on the boy, his classmates, their parents, Covington Catholic School, the Catholic Church, Donald Trump (well, not really, they aren’t that sorry), and American culture. But the mea culpas are too late. The damage has already been done.

This morning’s edition of USA Today reports Covington Catholic School is closed today. In an official statement from the school principal he directs, “To insure the safety of our students, faculty, and staff…all activities on campus will be cancelled for the entire day and evening. Students, parents, faculty, and staff are not to be on campus for any reason.”

Since the hot takes of the weekend, individual students and the school have been targets of vicious threats including hopes for a mass shooting at the school.

I am still not sure we know the whole story of what happened at the Lincoln Memorial last Friday afternoon. I am sure of this:

Hot takes leave bad burns.

Proverbs told us this long before social media became a thing and long before every person with a smartphone became a network videographer.

Proverbs 18:13 The one who gives an answer before he listens this is foolishness and disgrace for him.

Proverbs 18:17 The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.

Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away anger, but a harsh word stirs up wrath.

Hot takes are not the exclusive domain of journalists, politicians, celebrities, bloggers and activists. Every human being can hot take another person or situation.

  • A team member can hot take his supervisor, and a supervisor can hot take a team member.

  • A parent can hot take a child, and a child can hot take a parent.

  • A wife can hot take her husband and a husband his wife.

  • A pastor can hot take a church member, and a church member can hot take his pastor.

Learn the lesson James articulated, be “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” If you don’t, you will leave burn marks.

Sure, you can go back and seek forgiveness, but why act in such a way that repentance and forgiveness are necessary? Why not take the Bible’s wisdom and make it your practice – no hot takes about anything toward anyone.

As always I welcome your feedback and any suggestions you might have for an upcoming Lunchtime Musing.

A Suggested Plan for Weekly Prayer in 2019

Over the last few weeks, many churches (including ours), distributed plans for yearly Bible reading and encouraged the church to embrace the discipline of reading God’s Word with purpose and regularity.

But the capability for an individual to read God’s Word is a fairly recent modern reality. Literacy of the average person and available copiesof the Bible to the average person is less than 200 years of modern history.

Have you ever considered there are far more biblical directives for God’s people to pray to God than to read our Bibles (for example, see Luke 10:1; 1 Thessalonians 5:17; James 1:5)?

It is not my intent to pit Bible reading against prayer. To do so would be reason to remove me from my pastoral position. We are blessed beyond capacity to express the privilege that is ours to be Bible readers. The Bible we read tells us to pray without ceasing and to pray about everything so that we are anxious about nothing.

While we have 2019 Bible reading plans, do we have a 2019 prayer plan? Here is a suggestion for a prayer plan for your week. I hope you find it helpful as you follow Jesus’s example and instruction to always pray.

Monday – Pray back over the Lord’s Day events. Read the text from the call to worship or the text from the sermon and pray back over it for yourself, your family, and for the church. Pray for the church’s response to the gathering of God’s people. Who was hurting that you talked to? Who was troubled? Who was lonely? Who ministered to you, to your family? What did you observe that brought you great joy? What did you observe that needs God’s intervention? Who was missing? Pray for any and all of these.

Tuesday – From the time you get out of bed until you head to bed later today, pray for two minutes at the top of the hour or the bottom of the hour. What is coming in the next hour for you, your family, or those near you? What has happened in the last half hour to you, to your family, or to those near you? What did you hear on the news? What have you observed in creation? Do what the Bible says, “present your requests to God.”

Wednesday – Hump Day! Pray for the faithfulness of God’s people in the midst of life. The gathering of God’s people is days away, but the lives of people continue. The strength of our community is being challenged by “the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life (1 John 2:16).” Pray for the church, your church. Like Jesus prayed for Peter (Luke 22:31-40), pray that those in your church would not fall into temptation. Like Paul prayed for the church in Rome (Romans 15:13), pray that God, “the source of hope, will fill (them) completely with joy and peace because (they) trust in him.”

Thursday – You’ve prayed for three days straight, so take today off. You need the break from talking to God, and frankly, he needs the break from you. Wrong! Today’s prayer is about Thankful Thursday. Paul writes, “in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God (Philippians 4:6).” Count your blessings before God. Name them one by one. Fill your mind and God’s ears with your expressions of gratitude for his amazing grace to you.

Friday – For most people the work grind is coming to an end and the school week is winding down. Your family will be together more than at other times. Today, lift your family before the Lord in each area of need and in each reason for thanksgiving.

Saturday – Praying through a psalm on Saturday can be a wonderful time spent with the Lord. If you have never prayed through a psalm, simply turn to the text and personalize it. Here are a few suggestions for getting started: Psalm 5, 23, 32, and 40. And since the Lord’s Day is the next day, remember to pray for the gathering of your church tomorrow and the ministry of the Word of God to all the people.

Sunday – If you arrive at the church building with family members, pray before you leave the vehicle. If you come alone, pray with another single person you meet upon arrival. During worship, join in the corporate prayers that occur throughout the service. Don’t fall asleep. Don’t sit mindlessly. Don’t open your phone. Don’t read the bulletin. Don’t write a check for the offering. Don’t count the light fixtures in the ceiling. Do pray! Of course, that means you are actually in the worship service, but I digress. Someone is leading corporate prayer at various points in your worship. This is not a time to listen to someone else talk to God; this is the occasion for the whole church to talk to God together as someone leads up before him.

I pray you find the suggestion helpful.

As always I welcome your feedback and any suggestions you might have for an upcoming Lunchtime Musing.

Yes, I Cried When I Gave My Daughter Away in Marriage.

"Her mother and I," with those words lives changed until death do we part.

I have presided over dozens of marriage ceremonies and have given a gracious smile to the father answering back those words to me. I now understand what it feels like to say those words and walk away from my daughter.

When our older son, Michael, married three years ago, I preached the marriage sermon in a similar way as I did last Saturday at Jennifer's wedding. Now married, Michael and I still enjoy the same relationship that we did before he made his vows. When I gave Jennifer away to James, our relationship changed, as it should. She now belongs to James and not to me. I gave her away.

James didn't have it easy with me when he first showed interest in Jennifer. I didn't meet him at the door with a shotgun, but I did make him pass some tests. If he was going to take my daughter away from me, he was going to do it with my blessing. My blessing would come to him after vetting him.

There is no man alive good enough for either of my daughters, but I also don't want them living at home forever either. And there's the person in my house who is interested in the title, "Grandma." So, I needed to get on board with the idea of my daughter marrying a man.

A few years ago, I contacted a number of older men I respect and asked them how they vetted the man each of their daughters married. I was stunned how little involvement the dads had before the wedding day. I wasn't willing to take that risk. I had a good idea of the kind of man Jennifer needed, and I wasn't willing to leave that to some guy's testosterone.

I needed answers to two primary questions.

  1. Was this the kind of man Jennifer could follow? People can have much in common but still not be compatible over the long haul of marriage. Brenda and I know Jennifer, her strengths and areas of need. Her strength of character would carry her in most relationships, but for their relationship to blossom, she would need a certain kind of man.

  2. Does he lead himself? A man will never lead other people if he isn't disciplined in leading himself. Young men should show growth in leadership as they mature, but even young men should demonstrate enough leadership of self to give confidence to a dad that he can take the responsibility to lead that man's daughter.

Last Saturday afternoon two Christian families intertwined, not at the arrangement of the fathers, but at the good pleasure of our Heavenly Father, who in His wisdom and kindness joined together two of His children as husband and wife until death parts them. Their mutual purity and innocent love drew us all into their joyful wedding. Over the next many hours, we laughed and cried, hugged and kissed, praised and petitioned. Then we sent them off to honeymoon in the way the God of heaven intended.

As both her dad and her pastor, I had two roles in the wedding. I also officiated the ceremony. I won't ask you to read the whole of my sermon to them and to all who gathered with us last Saturday, but here are my closing comments to James and Jennifer. It is as close as I can come to extending a blessing on them. They are built on Ephesians 5:22–32, the New Testament's most significant instruction on marriage - one woman and one man for a lifetime.

James, my son, go be Jennifer's husband. For the last 24 years, God gave me the privilege to lead her, but my time is done. I have led her as far as I can. Now the privilege to lead her is yours. In God's grace and with God's blessing, lead God's daughter and my daughter to places she could never go without you, a place where God is glorified and where happiness is both yours and all who interact with your blessed union.

Jennifer, my daughter, go be James's wife. By God's grace your mom and I have tried to build a godly home where you could flourish. Our time is done. Now, in God's grace and with God's blessing, go, my sweetest of children, and build a godly Christian home with this man, a home that brings glory to the name of Jesus and is good for you and to all of us who interact with you.

As always I welcome your feedback and any suggestions you might have for an upcoming Lunchtime Musing.

What's Your Prediction for 2019?

You’ve seen them before, haven’t you – those silly declarations that Jesus will return on a particular day based on some lunatic’s bizarre interpretation of an obscure Bible text blended weirdly with a current event?

To be sure, Jesus may return as he promised in 2019, but as Jesus said, “The Father alone has the authority to set those dates and times, and they are not for you to know (Acts 1:7).”

We place good emphasis on the latter part of Jesus’s words, but let’s not forget the first part of his assertion. Dates and times belong to the Father – not only the date and time of our Lord’s return but the date and time of every activity related to you. The day of your birth was according to the Father’s will as will be the day of your death. All the days between are no different.

We know next to nothing of what a day might bring, but that does not mean the day is random. Looking back on 2018 recalls events you did not see coming. Looking ahead to 2019 is like looking through a pipe into the moonless, starless sky. There’s nothing but blackness. Yet your dates and times from 2018 were under the providence of God, and your dates and times in 2019 will be too. While we will make our plans for the year to come, the Lord will determine our steps (Proverbs 16:9).

Be hopeful, Christian friends, about 2019, not because you’ve crafted a strategy sure to work, but because your Father who is in heaven has.

As always I welcome your feedback and any suggestions you might have for an upcoming Lunchtime Musing.

Of the Father's Love Begotten

Of the Father's love begotten
Ere the worlds began to be,
He is Alpha and Omega,
He the Source, the Ending He,
Of the things that are, that have been,
And that future years shall see
Evermore and evermore.

Oh, that birth forever blessed
When the Virgin, full of grace,
By the Holy Ghost conceiving,
Bare the Savior of our race,
And the Babe, the world's Redeemer,
First revealed His sacred face
Evermore and evermore.

O ye heights of heaven, adore Him;
Angel hosts, His praises sing;
Powers, dominions, bow before Him
And extol our God and King.
Let no tongue on earth be silent,
Every voice in concert ring
Evermore and evermore.

This is He whom Heaven-taught singers
Sang of old with one accord;
Whom the Scriptures of the prophets
Promised in their faithful word.
Now He shines, the Long-expected;
Let creation praise its Lord
Evermore and evermore.

Christ, to Thee, with God the Father,
And, O Holy Ghost, to Thee
Hymn and chant and high thanksgiving
And unending praises be,
Honor, glory, and dominion,
And eternal victory
Evermore and evermore.

As always I welcome your feedback and any suggestions you might have for an upcoming Lunchtime Musing.